I've been thinking.
What kind of people read this blog?
So, do they visit because they are curious if others have the same (or different) feelings about intimacy? Is it that they find a sex life based around one particular act interesting? Or is it people just curious about anal sex in a more general sense?
I'll still carry on doing my own thing, but I'm more than happy to hear what motivates you to read this blog.
Also, I'd love to receive any links to any similar or related sites that I have missed.
I say, I read your blog because I'm sad.
ReplyDeleteI love anal. I treasure this excitation and the pleasure I get from it. It is an obsession... at a negative point of view.
Well... the truth is... this makes me weird. I have trouble to feel good in a relationship with a girl. This complicates the sex so much.
Of course, we could do vaginal sex. But I find it more and more boring, unpleasurable. I am sad. I love my girlfriend, but I was not able to get her into this, so I suffer. And this is ridiculous, since we love each other. Why being sad?
This blog makes me feel that women could be interested in this way of life. I know there is a chance on a million to ever find somebody like you, but I make me feel less weird.
I have read lots of stories about "anal only" couples. But mostly from guys, or from girls addicted to submission, gangbangs, etc. No "normal" girl would say "I prefer anal sex, and I see no problem to skip vaginal sex forever"... except you.
That's why I read your blog. I am not sure about the intimacy thing, though it is something I like. To me, anal is love, and love leads to anal desire. This desire only leads me to frustration. Your blog leads me to hope.
I'm glad you finished feeling hope! I was beginning to feel bad that reading my blog was making you feel sad! I wouldn't want that...
DeleteBut I can see your problem, and I also have some sympathy as what you describe is similar to how my husband was; getting bored and frustrated. Please don't think of yourself as weird.
Are you sure she can't get into it? Or are you trying for too much too fast? Obviously I don't know the whole picture but perhaps you could meet in the middle - have some agreement? Many women find over time that anal sex becomes much easier and agreeable, even if some never get to love it in the same way.
Finally, you say that you love each other: that's the most essential element and you can always build on that. Some things just take time.
Most of the times, I feel myself as weird, because if I were a "regular" man with "regular" desires, I would be happier. Why wanting something you can't have, and not live peacefully with what you already have?
DeleteI guess sex will not be as a source of joy as I would have dreamt to. Still, we love each other, and I secretly hope she could change her mind. She only see anal as painful and dirty. And yes, the full picture would require another blog. Thanks for your answer, and keep you blog alive, please ;)
This.
ReplyDeleteWhat french lover says could have been written by me. I can feel a little less "weird" knowing I share the same troubles.
Vaginal sex is not satisfying in the way anal sex is. And in a way vaginal sex feels all wrong. It is something I just have to learn to live with. Like anything else its just the way we are born. But not many people understand this.
Reading your blog I can dream about meeting a woman who shares this desire. I know they exist but how to find them???
Well most women are going to want some vaginal sex. However, I happen to think it would be helpful if many more could recognise that for many men that isn't the focus of their desires. That doesn't diminish in any way their attraction or feelings for women, and so women shouldn't feel rejected or anything. A healthy respect and appreciation for each other goes a long way.
DeleteThis is a great blog for reading about what/why others enjoy anal sex. It's a rare find because not many sites dedicate themselves to this topic, or where people talk about it positively without being criticized. What also makes you so different is that you accept hwo much anal sex means to men. Most of the time there is so much guilt attached, even if they will let you anywhere near their ass. I wish more women would read this and realize that anal can be fun and intimate and needn't be any discomfort.
ReplyDeleteA constructive discussion is all I want. It just seems a natural interest many people have, but usually smothered by all kinds of misconception and rigid thinking.
DeleteI agree, guilt has no place in a healthy sexual relationship. And I mean on both sides.
I'm fascinated by this whole "anal only" subject and the couples who do this. I think it is the sign of a happy and contented relationship. It is a fantasy for many guys, but I think it needs a special kind of women who understands their man to do this. Anal is more about love and pleasure than the "normal" way so those that choose this could more likely stay together.
ReplyDeleteThese are not my words (http://www.steadyhealth.com/Girl_Anal_Orgasm____t108427.html?page=6#1308182)
"Several have reported that anal orgasms are relaively powerful and satisfying. Do highly experienced women become experienced because they have special sensitivities, or would most women enjoy it if they kept trying?"
I am sure it is the last.
We would like it to be so. I used to think so. Yet, every women is different. And if anal sex doesn't appear to be exciting for the women, it is likely she won't enjoy it. So no orgasms.
DeleteSome women do prefer anal sex. Some would never find any pleasure in this kind of sex. That's the way it is.
I prefer anal & yes, there are "normal" girls out there who do...It's not just freaky porn chicks. It's the most intimate & close feeling between my husband & I and the orgasms are stronger! We've gone strictly anal for about a month or so & it's fun! There is a certain trust between us that couldn't be had otherwise.
ReplyDeleteHi Kay. I don't think we aren't "normal" - which, by the way is a very loaded term when used sexually. Not that I'm blaming you at all - it's everyone else who see's this normal/not normal division when it isn't there.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad there are some woman who "get" the intimacy. I felt odd about it which was one of the reasons I set up the blog. It's just nice when you know you aren't alone.
And so you're just at the start having just anal. Who's idea was that? I know both my husband and I talked it over for some time after things were naturally taking their course towards that state.
We've been pretty much just anal for quite a while but we occasionally have "regular" sex when it's just a quickie kind of a thing.
DeleteI can't really pinpoint whose idea it was...we just sort of mutually agreed on it. We joked about how little we had vaginal sex and how we may as well just not any more. It just sort of went away!
I'm so glad that there are others like us out there and I'm grateful for this blog! I've always felt a little freaky anyway and I know that there are other freaky girls but nobody wants to be open about it!
I didn't realize we were an anal only couple until my wife made it crystal clear that she never wanted me in her vagina again. I was fascinated that there are many other couples who have made this choice, so I have been looking for discussions about this subject. It's fun to read about.
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