What is it with men and anal sex?
Now, I realize I'm probably a little unusual for a woman in my preferences but it appears the same cannot be said for men. Every man I've ever slept with has liked it, and I believe nearly all thought it was better than vaginal. What is going on? It can't just be me attracting all the ass lovers.
When I've discreetly enquired of a few select girlfriends they've all rolled their eyes and confessed this had been something they've encountered time and again. For so many it can become a problem. While I can see that point of view, for me the whole male anal obsession is all rather sweet, funny and endearing.
When I introduced my husband to anal sex for the first time he literally shook with excitement. Afterwards as we cuddled together it was all worth it for all the love and copious compliments that flowed from his lips. Never before had he been so full on with his affection. If only it was like this all the time!
Now I understand all the reasons given, about the anus being tighter and the forbidden aspects, but what more is there? What are they thinking and feeling? Is it different from when they have other forms of sex? Or are all men different and there are other reason I hadn't thought of?
Whatever it is, for me the excitement from my lover is always a big part of why I enjoy it so much.
Am I wrong about all men being crazy for anal or have I just had a unique experience thus far?
Perhaps I can help you. I can't speak for all men but...
ReplyDeleteIt does seem that we are entering a more open era and what I've noticed (at least anecdotally) is that men who have tried anal sex overwhelmingly prefer it to plain old vaginal.
Sure, there are psychological factors in play but I think for most it just comes down to feeling better. I remember when I first had anal sex I couldn't believe the difference and what I had been missing out on. In fact it was like how I'd always imagined sex to be before my first time.
Men have always liked butts and I think anyone whos got to slip it up the back can't help but like it more. If they say otherwise I wouldn't believe them. If they haven't then they want to.
ReplyDeleteBut the reason were having this conversation at all is thanks to porn. Most films today they eschew the pussy in favour of the ass. And theres good reason for that - as in real life it looks better on camera. Plus there is something hot about seeing the pussy empty and ignored. If they go there at all its just a minute at the beginning for forms sake or for dp. So what we have is both film showing what is now acceptable but guys as well getting a little inspired by what they see. And they see whats possible because its not like these girls are made any differently to the ones they know.
Anal is more psychological pleasure. It is about liking sex, and liking experiences. It is about fun, about intimacy, about giving everything, about sharing. It is about seeking greater forms of pleasure, more esthetic form of pleasure and excitation.
ReplyDeleteI have more pleasure. I feel more inside of her. I feel more unique, special and loved. I like her being a pervert, and being a special whore dedicated to me.
I want to find a way to give her the most pleasure as possible.
The trouble of anal: she may fear to be dirty back there, and she may feal pain. I hate pain! I know some girls like a little -or even more- pain. I hate giving pain...
I would love to find a girl that feel like me: who sees anal like a superior way to have orgasm, and prefer an anal-centered relationship...
Truly hard to find!
It shouldn't hurt. You're right in that most people don't like to give or receive pain. Having said that, I think that many women do have a bad initial experience which puts and end to them trying again. The other thing, is that the feeling is so different, that until you get used to it your body can interpret as pain.
ReplyDeleteInteresting to read these comments from other men. I agree with much of what's been said but have some things to add of my own...
ReplyDeleteFirst up, I wouldn't read too much into the 'forbidden' aspect. This is oft quoted but just think about it - once he's tried it, or anal becomes available more easily then he still craves it just as much as before. Or even more because it turns out to be even BETTER than he expected.
Also, the thing about it being tighter, is only partly true. Tighter at the entrance it's true, but that isn't what it's all about. The rectum is so much warmer inside and almost sucks you in.
And like the comment earlier there is a natural attraction in all men to that part of a woman. Visually it's the most stimulating part of a woman.
But although that inclination to want to make love to a woman that way is always there I think it often doesn't express itself until he gets a bit more mature and experienced. I think younger guys get more freaked out by ideas like it might be dirty or something. The same goes for women, who as they get older are more willing to try new things.
What you've encountered with the men you've slept with sounds about right. The physical pleasure, the visual appeal, intimacy - who wouldn't want that?
I forget where I read it now, but I thought the data suggests that it was actually now younger women who are more likely to try anal sex and include it more often in their lovemaking. Young women are also more likely to discuss their sex life more openly with their close friends, so they can now get a more accurate and unbiased view of anal sex.
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