Am I different?

Since starting this blog I've often stopped to think why I have such a different attitude to anal sex to most other women. Or even, am I all that different?

Yes, I know if you suggest anal sex to many women they will be horrified, while I'll readily do it. But why? We aren't significantly different in the way we are made. That suggests the only real difference is in the mind.

I experienced anal sex for the first time very early on, so I guess that I didn't ponder much the implications of what I was about to do. And the man to take my virginity was older, more experienced and persuasive; I trusted him and never felt afraid.

Having never had the fear, I struggle to understand it. This is unusual for me as I'm usually good at putting myself in the shoes of others. I'm assuming that fear is the primary problem for most women from what I read; fear that it will hurt, fear of the consequences.

I am aware there could be other, subtle forces at play. Perhaps they are ashamed to associate the anus with pleasure, having been told all their lives that it is dirty.

Another observation from my reading of various sources it that most people stand firmly on one or the other side of the issue. That is some think there are women who will never come to like anal sex, no matter what, and those who think that with the right amount of time and gentle coaxing she can learn to enjoy it. I believe in the latter, but I'd love to hear what others think about this.

Men and anal sex

What is it with men and anal sex?

Now, I realize I'm probably a little unusual for a woman in my preferences but it appears the same cannot be said for men. Every man I've ever slept with has liked it, and I believe nearly all thought it was better than vaginal. What is going on? It can't just be me attracting all the ass lovers.

When I've discreetly enquired of a few select girlfriends they've all rolled their eyes and confessed this had been something they've encountered time and again. For so many it can become a problem. While I can see that point of view, for me the whole male anal obsession is all rather sweet, funny and endearing.

When I introduced my husband to anal sex for the first time he literally shook with excitement. Afterwards as we cuddled together it was all worth it for all the love and copious compliments that flowed from his lips. Never before had he been so full on with his affection. If only it was like this all the time!

Now I understand all the reasons given, about the anus being tighter and the forbidden aspects, but what more is there? What are they thinking and feeling? Is it different from when they have other forms of sex? Or are all men different and there are other reason I hadn't thought of?

Whatever it is, for me the excitement from my lover is always a big part of why I enjoy it so much.

Am I wrong about all men being crazy for anal or have I just had a unique experience thus far?