Does culture matter?

If you've been following the blog you'll notice my musings about why some people like anal, why many men love it, and why others are more open to the idea.

Now, we know that in the past in some societies the practise of anal sex was widespread. Could that also be true today?

So far most of the contributors to the blog have been (or appear to be) native English speakers which puts them in a very similar culture. In western culture anal sex is gradually becoming more of an accepted thing, but I know I have readers from around the world and would love to here about their experiences.

Is it acceptable or frowned upon where you live?

Men and anal sex

What is it with men and anal sex?

Now, I realize I'm probably a little unusual for a woman in my preferences but it appears the same cannot be said for men. Every man I've ever slept with has liked it, and I believe nearly all thought it was better than vaginal. What is going on? It can't just be me attracting all the ass lovers.

When I've discreetly enquired of a few select girlfriends they've all rolled their eyes and confessed this had been something they've encountered time and again. For so many it can become a problem. While I can see that point of view, for me the whole male anal obsession is all rather sweet, funny and endearing.

When I introduced my husband to anal sex for the first time he literally shook with excitement. Afterwards as we cuddled together it was all worth it for all the love and copious compliments that flowed from his lips. Never before had he been so full on with his affection. If only it was like this all the time!

Now I understand all the reasons given, about the anus being tighter and the forbidden aspects, but what more is there? What are they thinking and feeling? Is it different from when they have other forms of sex? Or are all men different and there are other reason I hadn't thought of?

Whatever it is, for me the excitement from my lover is always a big part of why I enjoy it so much.

Am I wrong about all men being crazy for anal or have I just had a unique experience thus far?

Anal sex and taboo. Where did it all go wrong?

It is interesting to note that anal sex was not always the forbidden act that it is today. Depictions of anal intercourse in art and literature is common from around the world, from the ancient world and to the far east. The Romans and Greeks were western civilizations which commonly practised anal sex. It was not thought to be unusual at all. And most importantly was considered a valid expression of love for heterosexuals, not just homosexuals. Indeed, in times passed sex was recognised as something that could be purely for pleasure and not just procreation.

What happened?

A few thousand years ago began the rise of the great monotheistic religions. Never before had religion intruded so much into peoples sex lives. Even worse, as the religions split and diverged in competition with one another, they all sought to out-breed each other. As a consequence, of course, anal sex (which didn't result in more babies) became one of the many victims of the relentless advance of these cults.

When something becomes taboo for centuries, people become ignorant and fearful. It is this fear which today stops so many loving couples enjoying what could be one of the most intimate and  joyful of pleasures.