I'm all too well aware I haven't been very active in updating this blog. In part it is the usual personal life/workload that gets in the way.
Partly, because you need to be inspired to get the urge to write. And mostly life has been moving along uneventful, and without anything much to report that is relevant here. I do have one or two ideas, but they will require a bit more thought and time as well as being dependent on news from another person. More on that another time.
The other reason is, to be completely honest, is that I was getting a little disheartened by some emails and comments. The really weird one's I haven't published, but you can see for yourselves some of the things on the Q&A. Yes, I realize I left it open to all kinds of question, but I was hoping for a mostly mature and intelligent response. I'm not saying it was all bad, but some of the later comments started to see the quality and seriousness degenerate...
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Showing posts with label work. Show all posts
Tuesday, November 12, 2013
Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Together again
I know it's been some time since I managed to post a real update. Both my husband and myself have been busy with our respective jobs. Whilst mine is irregular and variable in its demands, his is normally quite steady and predictable. But once in a while we both find ourselves in demand at the same time, like the last few weeks.
We'd been like ships passing in the night, but thankfully it is over for the time being. We didn't even get to have sex around two weeks, which is virtually unheard of. Well, every cloud has a silver lining, as they say...
The result was when we did go to bed together we were both charged up with sexual energy. If you've had a long break before you'll know what I'm talking about. That tension becomes pent up and when you finally have a chance to release it it can alter the whole experience. Senses seem enhanced, each others body seems like new territory again. Smells, touch, sight; everything more vivid. The result of is you have one of those sexual encounters you remember forever (well until the next memorable one).
You may think it was over in a rush, but you'd be wrong. For some reason, though excited were both took our time. I think it was post work exhaustion and relief that we actually had some time of our own, and for once together again that made us want to savor it.
Much of it was actually oral: me on him, him licking delicately at my anus before probing deeper. It is one of his favorite activities and he would have gone on much longer than he did, but I was starting to squirm and really needed him inside. So, it was onto my side and legs up while he lubed me up. He penetrated slowly but felt very thick, though everything is exactly the same.
It is often the mind, playing with our perception which makes all the difference - Deciding if something hurts or not; whether it is intimate or not; and often the trigger for climax. Not in the right mood? Then good sex can be a problem. Though there are a few circumstances where it has occasionally turned things around, such as a post argument 'make up fuck'.
But I digress. After penetration it was just slow and steady. Boring I guess unless you happen to be one of the participants. At the end there wasn't even that much movement as he was all the way in and just kind of 'rocking' against my ass. This was another time I got frustratingly close to orgasm but not quite, so just a minute of finger work and I was there. He afterwards said he wanted to go on but my repeated clenching up put an end to that! He's not interested if we get to orgasm together but I really enjoy it when it happens.
So there you have it. I apologize again for not keeping up with stuff here but as I'm sure you all appreciate it isn't always for lack of interest or will. Partly my mistake for promising regular updates. Perhaps just a little unrealistic but the best of intentions.
Until next time.
J.
We'd been like ships passing in the night, but thankfully it is over for the time being. We didn't even get to have sex around two weeks, which is virtually unheard of. Well, every cloud has a silver lining, as they say...
The result was when we did go to bed together we were both charged up with sexual energy. If you've had a long break before you'll know what I'm talking about. That tension becomes pent up and when you finally have a chance to release it it can alter the whole experience. Senses seem enhanced, each others body seems like new territory again. Smells, touch, sight; everything more vivid. The result of is you have one of those sexual encounters you remember forever (well until the next memorable one).
You may think it was over in a rush, but you'd be wrong. For some reason, though excited were both took our time. I think it was post work exhaustion and relief that we actually had some time of our own, and for once together again that made us want to savor it.
Much of it was actually oral: me on him, him licking delicately at my anus before probing deeper. It is one of his favorite activities and he would have gone on much longer than he did, but I was starting to squirm and really needed him inside. So, it was onto my side and legs up while he lubed me up. He penetrated slowly but felt very thick, though everything is exactly the same.
It is often the mind, playing with our perception which makes all the difference - Deciding if something hurts or not; whether it is intimate or not; and often the trigger for climax. Not in the right mood? Then good sex can be a problem. Though there are a few circumstances where it has occasionally turned things around, such as a post argument 'make up fuck'.
But I digress. After penetration it was just slow and steady. Boring I guess unless you happen to be one of the participants. At the end there wasn't even that much movement as he was all the way in and just kind of 'rocking' against my ass. This was another time I got frustratingly close to orgasm but not quite, so just a minute of finger work and I was there. He afterwards said he wanted to go on but my repeated clenching up put an end to that! He's not interested if we get to orgasm together but I really enjoy it when it happens.
So there you have it. I apologize again for not keeping up with stuff here but as I'm sure you all appreciate it isn't always for lack of interest or will. Partly my mistake for promising regular updates. Perhaps just a little unrealistic but the best of intentions.
Until next time.
J.
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Undesired consequences
Wow. I just checked and it's been month since I posted last. I truthfully meant to keep a more regular record than I have so far. What can I say? Stuff happens...
Work has been more than a little demanding but also other things have started to intrude and take up my spare time, which I can't really go into here.
But for the moment, maybe a little breather and a chance to catch up.
The main thing to report is that we've stuck to our decision and continue to have only anal sex. Neither of us has any regrets and I don't feel (so far) to be missing out or any less satisfied. He's delighted (well, no surprise) but I'll talk a bit more about him in another blog post.
I'd just like to say to any other women who are curious and current enjoy some element of anal play but are hesitant to enjoy more often due to what you may have read elsewhere, that there is nothing to fear. Fear really is the only enemy of anal pleasure. But again, this is a whole subject for another time.
What I wanted to write about this time is something that maybe you can't ignore once you begin having regular anal sex. Now, we make love 3 to 4 times a week and we both like it when he finishes inside. This is a personal choice and for us one that completes the act but it does have its obvious complications. What goes in must come out. Now, when you used to have occasional anal this wasn't such a great problem. Experienced practitioners will know all about it. I'll be blunt: gas, sudden urges to use the bathroom, loose stools or diarrhea. These can all be potential causes of embarrassment or difficulty the next day.
I'll share with you these tips that will help you avoid most of these undesired consequences.
Firstly, if you are using a water-based lube, then stop. Apart from generally adding to the water content of your rectum they include chemicals that seem to stimulate the digestive system and draw even more water out. We've settled on vaseline; though it seems quite thick it melts quickly at body temperature and becomes very slippery and long lasting. Best of all you don't need much.
Next, before and after sex try to avoid foods which stimulate your system to much. The worst offenders are coffee, spicy food and alcohol.
Don't be getting up and being too active straight after sex. Again, this stimulates the bodies natural system.
It's not very romantic, but rather than falling asleep in each others arms after you've made love, head for the bathroom. Sit there for a little while and relax. Gravity will do the rest. You may need to push a little to eject his cum but remember its not healthy to strain your pelvic floor too hard.
Work has been more than a little demanding but also other things have started to intrude and take up my spare time, which I can't really go into here.
But for the moment, maybe a little breather and a chance to catch up.
The main thing to report is that we've stuck to our decision and continue to have only anal sex. Neither of us has any regrets and I don't feel (so far) to be missing out or any less satisfied. He's delighted (well, no surprise) but I'll talk a bit more about him in another blog post.
I'd just like to say to any other women who are curious and current enjoy some element of anal play but are hesitant to enjoy more often due to what you may have read elsewhere, that there is nothing to fear. Fear really is the only enemy of anal pleasure. But again, this is a whole subject for another time.
What I wanted to write about this time is something that maybe you can't ignore once you begin having regular anal sex. Now, we make love 3 to 4 times a week and we both like it when he finishes inside. This is a personal choice and for us one that completes the act but it does have its obvious complications. What goes in must come out. Now, when you used to have occasional anal this wasn't such a great problem. Experienced practitioners will know all about it. I'll be blunt: gas, sudden urges to use the bathroom, loose stools or diarrhea. These can all be potential causes of embarrassment or difficulty the next day.
I'll share with you these tips that will help you avoid most of these undesired consequences.
Firstly, if you are using a water-based lube, then stop. Apart from generally adding to the water content of your rectum they include chemicals that seem to stimulate the digestive system and draw even more water out. We've settled on vaseline; though it seems quite thick it melts quickly at body temperature and becomes very slippery and long lasting. Best of all you don't need much.
Next, before and after sex try to avoid foods which stimulate your system to much. The worst offenders are coffee, spicy food and alcohol.
Don't be getting up and being too active straight after sex. Again, this stimulates the bodies natural system.
It's not very romantic, but rather than falling asleep in each others arms after you've made love, head for the bathroom. Sit there for a little while and relax. Gravity will do the rest. You may need to push a little to eject his cum but remember its not healthy to strain your pelvic floor too hard.
Wednesday, January 9, 2013
Happy New Year.
Well the holidays are behind us now and we can all resume our normal lives. I do love that time of year but all the same I'm relieved when I can pick up my routine. I need that kind of normality to work, think and be creative.
Time for some fun too. Unfortunately, what with parties, visiting friends and family, others staying with my DH and I didn't get as much quality time together during December. When we did, it was always of a more predictable nature. I wouldn't call it quite "stuck in a rut" but do you ever find yourself doing the exact same things over again and in the same order, almost like auto-pilot, when making love? Sometimes I'm content with this and just want more of the same. Take the last month for example: Every time he starts out by licking me, almost bringing me to the brink then working down and I lift my legs so he can get at my anus. He just loves working his tongue in and around there and it does feel amazing. After about fifteen minutes of that (and you can almost set your clock by it!) he stops, I pull my legs up and he's on me and sliding up my ass. I usually like it when he's behind but for some reason I can't get enough of doing it this way with me on my back, in a slightly modified missionary style.
Time for some fun too. Unfortunately, what with parties, visiting friends and family, others staying with my DH and I didn't get as much quality time together during December. When we did, it was always of a more predictable nature. I wouldn't call it quite "stuck in a rut" but do you ever find yourself doing the exact same things over again and in the same order, almost like auto-pilot, when making love? Sometimes I'm content with this and just want more of the same. Take the last month for example: Every time he starts out by licking me, almost bringing me to the brink then working down and I lift my legs so he can get at my anus. He just loves working his tongue in and around there and it does feel amazing. After about fifteen minutes of that (and you can almost set your clock by it!) he stops, I pull my legs up and he's on me and sliding up my ass. I usually like it when he's behind but for some reason I can't get enough of doing it this way with me on my back, in a slightly modified missionary style.
Monday, November 26, 2012
Busy Busy Busy
A hectic work schedule and other commitments have sadly meant I haven't had as much times as I'd wished to spend on this blog.
But fear not!
I hope to post in greater length soon, but until then this is how things stand:
We've now had a few weeks without any vaginal sex. So far a great success; I'm not missing it, he's not missing it (no surprise there). In a way it has been strangely liberating. Now that there isn't any misunderstanding or differing expectations, both in tune as it were, our sex life has already improved markedly.
I don't know how long this "honeymoon" will last but my husband is definitely being more romantic, attentive and loving than before. Now he knows what's on the menu he's more relaxed and spending the time on me to make sure I'm satisfied.
Till next time...
But fear not!
I hope to post in greater length soon, but until then this is how things stand:
We've now had a few weeks without any vaginal sex. So far a great success; I'm not missing it, he's not missing it (no surprise there). In a way it has been strangely liberating. Now that there isn't any misunderstanding or differing expectations, both in tune as it were, our sex life has already improved markedly.
I don't know how long this "honeymoon" will last but my husband is definitely being more romantic, attentive and loving than before. Now he knows what's on the menu he's more relaxed and spending the time on me to make sure I'm satisfied.
Till next time...
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